Judgment: Gay Marriage

    I am not a judgmental person, if anything I may be to accepting of everything and everyone. I have my views and my stances on certain aspects of the world but honestly I believe we spend too much time worrying and judging others about things that will ultimately have no impact on us as individuals. One that truly irks me is the constant issue with Gay and Lesbian marriage rights. I am supportive of the Gay and Lesbian communities struggle and see no issue in allowing them to marry.

    I don’t understand why so many people get worked up over this concept and lack any logical outlook on the issue. It appears that the first big defense of the Anti-Gay-Marriage types is that The Bible states it is wrong, or to put it in their own words, “It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.” That is the most fucking ignorant line I have ever heard in my life by the way! The Bible tells us a lot of things and I honestly believe that one of the largest lessons in it, one that outweighs majority of its ideals, is to “love thy neighbor.”

    Why do we spend so much time judging the way that others choose to live and love and point this finger of judgment at others when many of us are committing our own sins? There is a simple solution to nullify this use of religion in fighting Gay and Lesbian marriage and it is rather simple, just don’t recognize said unions through the church! Seriously, if your strongest argument is that God hates gays, then you are ignorant because we are told that God is forgiving and loves all of his children, and if the church is against these unions then simply allow the unions to take place through the State but not the Church. I understand that this idea is not ideal for any Gay or Lesbian couples that are also religious but keep in mind that it is a small victory in a much larger battle. The Blacks didn’t win all of their rights in one day, nor did Women, and the Jews had to run away and wander the desert for 40 years to even have a chance at what they wanted!

    How is it going to affect me if two people of the same gender want to spend their lives together? If anything I say more power to them for finding someone that makes them happy and inspires them to spend their life with another person! I would love to say that it affects me by removing people from the dating world but even then it doesn’t because they are not potential options in my dating pool, no they are over in their own pools having a blast on the water slides and chilling next to the poolside bar!

    I believe it is time that we quit judging people for their sexuality and stop using the term gay as some form of insult or way to attack others, and instead accept that the world is a changing place and people will love who they love. I have no right to question why anyone ends up with who they do and honestly believe I should only show concern when there are noticeable issues in a relationship like abusive natures or lack of support. I urge everyone to honestly consider how it would affect you if Gay and Lesbian marriage was legal and if it would truly ruin your life in any way?

 P.S Anyone who agrees or dis-agrees with these views please feel free to comment or write me back with a response of some sort. I have no shame in discussing this topic or any topic with anyone and would love to consider the opposite point of view on reasonable arguments.

Introduction to: Wasted Youth

    I think I should give a little background as to how this blog came to be and why it is what it is. As of one year today I started my first big boy job. I stepped into corporate America; roughly 5 months ago I became newly single from a relationship that will always play a big factor in my life, and roughly some hour of January 1^st, 2015 I realized that I had let a great deal of my life pass me by.

    Hear me out, that is not to say that I wasted any number of years, No, most of it held great lessons for life. What I mean by “pass me by” is that I spent so much time trying to figure out how to grow up that I never stopped to be a young adult and truly do things that left me with those WTF stories.  

    Wasted Youth summarizes that exact view, those years from 18 to 26 where you live with a sense of little consequence because you feel invincible. I am not saying I don’t have any stories from those years, (I do, and I may share them sometime) but not as many as I should, and defiantly not as crazy as they should be.  Granted that doesn’t mean I plan to make up for those years by acting like a barbarian in life for the next few, but I did make a resolution to live every day to the best of my ability in 2015. Wasted Youth is meant to be a collection of thoughts and experiences that I have learned from my years of constant worry about how to grow up and be an adult and the new adventures I experience in life in the coming years. I want it to be something that makes people think and evaluate, something that makes them laugh and even cry. I honestly just wanted a way to share things with the world that maybe they weren’t seeing themselves.

    I spent my late teens trying to discover what was wrong with me and then again in my early twenties. I spent my early and mid-twenties wondering how to be an adult who could take care of himself and loved ones and someday provide for a family. I spent all of those years constantly wanting to know what I was supposed to do instead of finding it for myself. If you have ever felt lost or confused, ever questioned your purpose or just felt like an outcast than I hope that Wasted Youth can inspire you time and time again but if not, I hope that you take at least one little thing with you from it…Live Your Life!

 

 

That Moment of Clarity-What I Got

    There are times when you have been dragged through the mud, kicked while you are down, spat on, and left to lay there in the pouring rain. When these moments occur in life it is hard to see the bright side of things, it is hard to appreciate who we are. Often, in these times or hardship, something right in front of us finally comes into focus and we can finally understand what it really means.

  I have recently had one of these epiphanies and it has really opened my eyes to a whole new idea. This may sound dumb to many of you or even pointless but in all honesty I never truly understood Sublimes, “What I got” until recently when things came together and the words became clear.

 

"Early in the morning, risin' to the street

Light me up that cigarette and I strap shoes on my feet

(This is truly how I feel every morning, this obligation to get up and go out although I would rather sleep just an hour more or kick back all day)

 

Got to find a reason, a reason things went wrong

Got to find a reason why my money's all gone

(I constantly find myself worrying if I am broke, and if I am, how I plan to survive the next week. I over analyze every little thing that happens to me as if it is the biggest failure in my life)

 

I got a dalmation, and I can still get high

 I can play the guitar like a mother fucking riot

(No truth here, I have a dog, Akita/Shepherd mix, and I suck at Guitar)

 Well, life is (too short), so love the one you got

 'Cause you might get runover or you might get shot

 Never start no static I just get it off my chest

 Never had to battle with no bulletproof vest

 Take a small example, take a tip from me

 Take all of your money, give it all to charity

 Love is what I got

 It's within my reach

 And the Sublime style's still straight from Long Beach

 It all comes back to you, you'll finally get what you deserve

 Try and test that you're bound to get served

 Love's what I got

 Don't start a riot

 You'll feel it when the dance gets hot

(The chorus, this is where it all finally makes sense to me. We have such a limited number of days to enjoy this world and none of us knows when that time is up or what will take us out but we can make the most of it and prolong it the most we can if we don’t stress, live every day to the fullest, and openly accept the world with love. Once we have lived our lives for ourselves and show compassion and love to others we create a brighter world and in doing so good fortune will fall back on us.)

 Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that

 Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that

 Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that

 Lovin', is what I got

 

 (That's) why I don't cry when my dog runs away

 I don't get angry at the bills I have to pay

(I don’t cry when Tazz gets out, I honestly trust him to come home once he gets tired of sniffing around and I know that in order to enjoy the things I do it will cost money, so why fret or get upset about it? Why curse at the bill collectors if you get hit with a late fee, you knew you had to pay it so shrug it off and keep going.)

 I don't get angry when my Mom smokes pot

 Hits the bottle and goes right to the rock

 Fuckin' and fightin', it's all the same

 Livin' with Louie dog's the only way to stay sane

 Let the lovin', let the lovin' come back to me

( I have nothing for this part, luckily my moms are both very straight laced people who don’t depend on toxins in order to feel well but as someone who does smoke and drink I must say that it is part of my young adult years so no reason to get mad at myself.)

 Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that

 Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that

 Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that

 Lovin', is what I got, I got I got I got 

    Now after that I am sure many of you are rolling your eyes because I am that late to the party or I sound like some hippie talking about living a care free lifestyle. Honestly, I am just trying to say that if we quit sweating the small stuff we can enjoy everything the world has to offer.

    When 2015 began I made a resolution to live every day to the fullest and be there for those who truly want me around. It is now February 4^th and I can honestly say that I have kept up with this resolution and experienced some very crazy nights, some oddly inappropriate nights, and even nights of pure relaxation. I have spent more time with family and friends than I have in the past and have even taken on new goals. What I am trying to say is if you share happiness, respect, and love with the world, good things will happen, you just have to know how to accept them.

    Also, just in case reading the lyrics weren’t enough hit the link below and enjoy…or hell, just turn your damn IPod on because we all have this song!

http://youtu.be/0Uc3ZrmhDN4